I was raised to be a proud, moral, and self-sufficient man. So I am a bit ashamed for having to write this letter asking for help, but my children and I have been struggling and it’s only getting worse…and I don’t know what else to do. Our problems started two years ago when my wife of 11 years left me and our two children (ages 2 and 7) for another woman, leaving me and our children devastated. I have not been able to locate her and in addition, she left me with a large amount of debt to deal with, some of which I was not aware of until after she left…$50,000 worth. Before she left, we were able to make ends meet between both our incomes, but since she has left…I just have not been able to keep up with the payments for the debts she accumulated (student loans, credit cards) and car payment, mortgage, and bills. I have taken on a second job to help, but it’s just not enough and because I am not spending as much time at home, I feel like a spectator in my children’s lives instead of a participant and feel like I am not being a good father. If I could just get some of these debts paid off and get back to working one job instead of two, the quality of life for my two children would greatly improve. I hope that one day I will be able to “pay it forward” by being in the same position you are in right now, and can help someone in need. Please help, and God Bless.